Ever watched the typical movie scene where the woman calls her partner with an urgent tone of “hurry home, I’m ovulating?!!”
Amusing to watch but a bit too close to home for one in six Australian couples, unable to conceive after a year of trying, according to a 2006 National Fertility Survey. Infertility is no laughing matter and an increasingly common, complex issue we face today.
Notice how something traditionally effortless, loving and sacred, has turned into a mechanical, loveless ‘job’ or obsession. The longer the result doesn’t show up, the more anxiety builds until it can interfere with the relationship itself.
Why is it that not so long ago, couples were trying not to get pregnant and now try to get pregnant and often can’t?
Male infertility accounts for about half of all infertility problems. Significant declines in male fertility have been reported in a number of countries in the past several decades and thought to be a result of changing environmental conditions.
So what on earth has changed? We live in a toxic world. Poor crocodiles are becoming infertile after spraying in the fields with toxic pesticides, via contamination of the very waters they swim in. So too, we humans are swimming in our own toxic swamps – the inside of our bodies – thanks to the same environmental toxicity that we face. Going organic or washing our fruits and vegetables in a safe non toxic solution is an important step.
To conceive a healthy baby, we need to be conscious of food choices. Naturopaths will often put couples on a detox to clean up the ‘toxic swamps.’ Overloaded with toxic chemicals from our unwholesome lifestyles, it’s no wonder our normal body processes are inhibited.
Create a loving space and connection with our partner. Perhaps a change of scenery by going on holiday or at least regular ‘date nights’ to just ‘be’ and have fun together rather than ‘do.’
When couples only connect over to-do lists and daily duties, it takes away from the romance and magic of the relationship and we may forget why we are even together in the first place. Being in a relaxed, beautiful environment without the pressures of daily life can make a big difference. So start dating your partner again and go back to the very beginning.
Be detached from the outcome. The best creations flow from a loving inspired space, not to meet any imposed deadlines or expectations. And so it is with the most creative process of making babies. Like birth itself, you can’t make it happen, you can only create the right conditions then let go and allow it to happen. So just let go and let it flow!
As seen in Holistic Bliss Magazine by Katrina Zaslavsky as a former birth columnist.
Katrina Zaslavsky is the passionate author of A Modern Woman’s Guide to a Natural Empowering Birth, an “enchanting” “must-read” for every woman in bloom! Available now as a gorgeous embossed paperback in our inspiring birth store here, in selected stores Australia-wide and kindle e-book on Amazon.
Meet the author on TV as she discusses the book and the possibility of a pain free birth!!